Treat Yourself Like Someone you are responsible for helping

If you want to do something good for yourself, watch Demi Lovato’s documentary: Dancing with the Devil. Just check it out. Draw any conclusions you want. Observe yourself and ask what you feel when you follow the narrative. 

It’s not comfortable fiction. Maybe you don’t need all this drama in your life. Perhaps you don’t want to hear all those things about drugs, eating disorders, sexual abuse and breaking points. It’s so much easier to keep our lives simple, huh?

But if you want to do something good for yourself, watch it.

I am so happy that famous personalities (often identified with success, great career and happiness) start to speak up about their issues. Of course, their problems aren’t our problems, but their problems are still THE problems and we should talk about them without feeling ashamed.

I enjoyed this documentary (even though it wasn’t always easy to watch). Because in the end, it wasn’t a simple story about overdosing.

For me, it was a story about understanding that:

  • you are the only person who can decide if you want to be helped;
  • you cannot help someone who doesn’t want it;
  • we all need to learn HOW to ask for help and WHAT this help should be.

It’s crazy because even though Demi was being extremely controlled, she still could find her moments to hide. Until, one day, she was found. Naked, raped and overdosed.


It’s important to treat your friends/family etc. as people you are responsible for helping. But, according to the second rule of life created by Jordan B. Peterson, in the first place, you should treat YOURSELF like someone you are responsible for helping.

“To treat yourself as if you were someone you are responsible for helping is to consider what would be truly good for you. This is not “what you want.” It is also not “what would make you happy”. Every time you give a child something sweet, you make that child happy. That does not mean that you should do nothing for children except feed them candy. “Happy” is by no means synonymous with “good.” You must get children to brush their teeth. They must put on their snowsuits when they go outside in the cold, even though they might object strenuously. You must help a child become a virtuous, responsible, awake being, capable of full reciprocity – able to take care of himself and others, and to thrive while doing so. 

Why would you think it is acceptable to do anything less for yourself?”*

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